Class and Cast

A thought has puzzled me for a long time: why do men claim women desire to control them. Not to sound too condescending, but what in the world do they think when they say such a thing? All evidence points to the other direction, that men desire to control women.

So, why do we keep on hearing about nagging wives and ungrateful women? Why don't we hear as much complaining about husbands who beat their wives and men who shoot escorts who refuse sex for money? Something's wrong with this picture.

When we really think about it, a clearer picture begins to emerge from the darkness. Is it not true that men claim women desire to control them because they are the ones pressuring women to conform to their will and women won't put up with it? Their refusal to comply must feel like an attempt to control, for a desire thwarted causes resentment, and resentment causes all logic to be tossed out the window, and a doubling down of the original pressure to conform. And so the battle rages on without a winner in sight.

But do women really desire to control men? Isn't that exactly what every tyrant says about peaceful protestors who are pepper sprayed, arrested, and shot, to preserve the tyrants power? Blame the oppressed, not the oppressor?

To get along with those who disagree is an art that is becoming increasingly rare in a world that is becoming increasingly hostile to free thinking and differing opinions. Uniformity creates peace but at the expense of everything else. You can't have a peace that lasts until you have a peace that is created by the mutual consent of all. Peace that is created by violence is ended with violence. And those who refuse to agree with the arrangement are called criminals, terrorists, even traitors - and nagging wives. But how can you betray something that doesn't exist?

Unless we are all free, no one is free. If no one is free, there is no free society to defend, no country to live for, no justice to uphold, no happy marriage to celebrate. All we have is a class system that exploits the majority for the benefit of the minority, and a cast system that benefits men at the expense of women.

Until the day the wealthy learn to see everyone else as their equals, and men learn to see women as persons instead of property, those who oppress and exploit will do their utmost to convince their victims that they are being exploited for their own good.