Why Complementarians Can't Decide (and Why the Church Really Needs to)

The reason complementarians keep on changing their theology is that they can't decide whether to choose pleasure or power.

The "flesh" lives for pleasure and power. In the secular world, the "flesh" doesn't have to choose, for power comes with endless pleasure. But in the realm of religion, it isn't quite as simple. Religious power usually requires the surrendering of earthly pleasures, wherefore the religious must choose between power and pleasure, and it is this trade that causes all the problems for complementarians.

As a result, one day pastors are proud of their "smoking hot wives," but the next young men are told that "hot" is not where they want to go; docility is the one virtue that they should seek in their future wives.

One day women are told that headcoverings are not mandated by the Bible (because long hair is seductive), but the next day, they are biblical (because seductiveness is female power over the male).

One day men are told that they should treat their wives with consideration (because women are physically weaker), but the next, they are told that they should spank their wives into submission (because men are physically stronger).

One day couples are told that the husband has the right to demand sex, the next they are told that procreation is the only legitimate reason for sex.

The list is endless, and it continues to cause massive confusion in the church.

The problem is not so much about whether men and women are different, but whether men are willing to see women as fully human, and not as objects of pleasure, or subjects of male power. It isn't possible to keep on trying to do what the world does and continue to claim to be a Christian. It is about time the church chose whether to be part of the Body of Christ, or live the way the rest of the world does. There really is no middle ground.